Dear Miss Manners

Dear Miss Manners • I am engaged but have been married before. My finance has been married twice.

How do we let people know we would appreciate gift cards instead of gifts at our reception? We have three of everything.

Gentle Reader • If you have three of everything, why aren’t you thinking of sharing with those who don’t have any, instead of plotting to make others help you get even more?

And by the way, the word is “fiance,” not “finance.” Or maybe in this case, it is.