well after years and years of trying to come up with stupid answers to this stupid question, because i sure didnt know, i now have the answer
it is because i met too many men like this during my "marriagable" years dear woman
in my 20s i was the liberal free living artist.. content to just be me and fiddle-le-dee. men like this in my world then permeated the 'scene'. i couldnt stand them, and never gave a fig to find out why.
by the time i came to my senses, the 'new' men i would consider were no where to be found.. they were married and happily building strong families. widowers and divorced men were just not there. single men non existitent.
so i just carried on ...
ok so now we have seen the namby pamby men.. what about the women these guys are married to....
i bet she wears a hippy head band and has long stringy hair
am so glad i was never one of those.. nor even on my way
i dont need the rape apologies from dead men who didnt commit the crime on me, i dont need you to understand my vagina, i have never blamed a man for any of MY shortcomings, i have never lead a man on or teased, i have never treated a man with contempt.
UPDATE: apparently i have cooties!
"Of all tyrannies, a tyranny exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end, for they do so with the approval of their consciences." - C.S. Lewis.
and that is my rant for the night ;)